Grief is an incredibly personal and complex journey which differs from person to person. Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, or even a life you imagined, the truth is: there is no right way to grieve. There is no manual, no cheat code, no quick fix. It is simply human nature. Everyone processes grief differently, and that’s okay.
Many people question whether they’re grieving in the “wrong” way. It’s possible that you haven’t cried or that you are unable to stop. Perhaps you’re feeling numb or overwhelmed by sorrow. All of these responses are valid. Coping with grief isn’t about crossing off emotional phases or adhering to a rigid schedule. It’s about respecting your individual experience and adjusting your needs to suit you.
You may have heard of the alleged “right way” to grieve being the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. However, while these can be handy to understand, the concept of a linear process is a myth. Not everyone necessarily experiences these feelings in the same way. The grieving process isn’t just a straight line- you may jump back and forth between emotions, or feel several simultaneously.
Grief can manifest in a plethora of ways, including:
- Crying easily or feeling emotionally numb
- Sudden anger or irritability
- Exhaustion, trouble sleeping, or oversleeping
- Withdrawing from others or needing constant support
- Trouble concentrating or making decisions
- Feeling guilt, confusion, or relief
- Physical symptoms like chest tightness, headaches, or appetite changes
There’s no strict structure for grief recovery. Some people heal gradually over months. For others, grief may return in waves years on. What’s important is allowing yourself the space to grieve without judgment.
If your grief feels overwhelming or unmanageable, seeking grief support from Julie at Heartbroken to Healed can make a huge difference. You’re not alone, and professional help can guide you through the toughest parts of the healing process.
The only “right way” to grieve is the way that feels right for you. Give yourself permission to feel, rest, and remember.